A week ago yesterday, I got the first sign that this cycle was different. A routine trip to the bathroom in the wee hours of the morning found what could only be described as implantation bleeding. The timing was perfect (10 days past ovulation) and the symptoms were classic. I was elated. I quietly tested with an extra test I had lying around and got my first faint positive test. OMG. I proceeded to test every few days and the line got progressively darker. Finally, on Tuesday of last week, I got a digital test and it registered a clear and resounding, “YES+” I shared the news with the Husband that night. We celebrated.
On Thursday I had my official beta test where the Dr. draws blood to test the amount of the pregnancy hormone, HCG, in your system. In the back of my head I knew I was pregnant, but I was still very anxious for this official result. My research showed average numbers for 9 days past a 5 day transfer (14 days past ovulation) were 100, so I wanted our results to be anything over 100. And guess what? They were! 122. I was soooo happy. I shared the news with my family and the few close friends who have been with us on this journey. I started to let my mind wander to that previously forbidden place of nurseries, and baby names and maternity leave. I took my ‘pre-pregnancy’ measurements so that I could track every exciting detail of my progress. I even started to read pregnancy books, borrowed from a friend. I was FINALLY pregnant and I was going to do this right! I was so happy.
Our follow-up beta was scheduled for Sunday and admittedly, I was nervous. I was very scared for this test, but I kept telling myself i was just being paranoid. That it was okay to be scared since this was such a hard road, but that I should relax and enjoy it. I had no reason to think something had gone wrong. My boobs were still the size of water ballons and no bleeding had started. As I waited for my beta results I did my best to keep busy but I was so anxious. Finally, around 11 am I checked the online patient portal and I was shocked. It had been 73 hours since my last beta test and a healthy pregnancy would require that the numbers at least double and possibly triple. 350 was the number I had in my mind as ‘good’ based on my research. Unfortunately, the number was 99. My HCG reading had declined, not tripled, indicating a ‘chemical pregnancy’ and an imminent miscarriage. The embryo had implanted in the uterus, but failed to properly progress. The nurse called minutes later to tell me the results I already knew. She explained a chemical pregnancy and expressed her sincerest apologies. While they’ll re-test in a few days to confirm, her words are etched in my mind: “I wouldn’t get your hopes up, things do not look good.”
To say I am devastated is a understatment. I alternated between crying and sleeping for most of yesterday. I cannot believe that life can be so cruel to us and can’t help but think that perhaps I’ve done something so wrong in this life to deserve such struggle and pain.
While I know life will go on, at this very moment I am having a pretty darn difficult time putting one foot in front of the other. To think about the road ahead of us is so frustrating. I’ve gone from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows in just one week. This is so unfair.